FAMILY COURTS DESTROY'S FAMILIES

Wife wife had an affair, confirmed by the judge. So I divorced her. The judge said I had to pay lifetime alimony 90k per year. She is 42. The kids are supposed to be shared custody but she hasnt seen the kids in a year and lives 3 miles away. I work full time, care for the kids full time. She plays with her boyfriend on my back.

Flawed System

Date: 15 May 2013
Subject: Its a flawed system

Message:
I went to court on the advise of my so called "great" attorney to modify my alimony payments. I was paying $5000 per month for 10 years ..I am done w/ 2 years. She and her convict boyfriend bought a 21 acre $750,000 house together and she did not use the 700 per month in education money she was awarded in the original divorce decree. Instead of modifying it downward the judge scolded me and said I was nickel and diming her ...its crazy...I give this women $3500 month in child support who only wanted her kids 1/2 time (what a mom huh?) so she could have 2 weeks to party. She is crazy nuts.....its been 4 years and she has yet to even look for a job...but hell why should she ...she gets rewarded for cohabitating and making a mockery of the court system, The biggest travesty is when the judge said I had plenty of funds ...to give my kids everything....the word "give" is very troubling...I grew up where there were things you worked for...and not just given. I am angry that the judicial system can't see through the lies of a serial cheater and habitual liar...but instead punishes the 1 person that is making the lives of his children normal.. WE NEED REFORM...My cheating X spouse get 10K a month and I have to work my ass off everyday ...and she doesn't have to work,,,her life gets 50% easier and she also received from me a house that was 100% paid for....and 1/2 of everything and she screwed 4-5 guys...its crazy HELP!!!


Thank you!
Erik

DEMAND ALIMONY REFORM IN MARYLAND!

We need alimony reform on a federal level. There is a movement on reform across the nation due to the archaic laws regarding alimony. The demand for the request is because of the inequitable an unjust broken judicial system. There needs to be duration terms and formulas put in place that the trial judges must adhere to. Child support laws have term and formulations. Currently, it is a free for all at the expense of one person, the payer.

He is a frugal man. Meanwhile his ex-wife gets to spend away any monies she receives, as she is to get alimony for LIFE! She doesn't have to get up every day and go to work. But my husband has to work the rest of his life for her benefit. All past and future income goes to ex-wife. He is expected to exhaust all funds (even his half) and become bankrupt and even that would not end alimony, but get him arrested and put in jail. By the way, he has never been arrested.  I can not stress enough that this is IN-EQUITABLE!

Divorce is extremely difficult to go through and paying alimony for life over a divorce to an able body individual is just criminal. If welfare benefits stops upon employment, child support stops at age 18, why won’t alimony stop at cohabitation? Why won’t the legislatures put restrictions on alimony? Why is alimony an entitlement that cannot be altered or so extremely difficult to do?

Permanent/in-definite alimony subjects individuals to life-long bullying and harassment from their ex-spouse. This is encourage by our legal system. 

How illogical lifetime alimony for an ABLE body adult really is.

The family courts treat good people going through a divorce like criminals.
How is this possible in the United States of America? I was raised to believe the courts are fair and just. Only to experience this atrocity, is truly unbelievable.

Marriage is a contract between two people. Divorce ends that contract. No crime was committed but a sentencing of LIFETIME ALIMONY? Ex-spouse will never remarry and lose their entitlement.
Paying alimony until death interferes with our Constitutional Right to LIFE, LIBERTY and the PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS! Not to mention a violation of the 13^th Amendment to ABOLISH INVOLUNTARY SERVITUDE!

The United States of America was found on INDEPENDENCE! We should be encouraging all individuals to be independent and self-supporting.

Alimony is a debt even if the states change the word to duty. It is a monthly lifelong financial obligation which carries a prison sentence and no crime was ever committed. How did this Great Nation let this happen to its law abiding, tax paying citizens?

JUDGES MAKING BAD JUDGEMENTS

The judicial system has failed in Maryland. The judge did not even consider cohabitation of many years as a factor to modify alimony. So don't let an attorney tell you otherwise. Don't think about retirement because the judge doesn't want to hear it. Keep working to pay for someone who does not save and is busy taking FOUR vacations a year on your dime!